That's pants

This year when I was looking through magazines and at fashion shows, one of the looks I was really drawn to was high waisted, somewhat bell-shaped trousers. I've seen that silhouette in skirts and dresses for a few seasons, but the pants were something new. A bit more relaxed, modern, more something...So I was really excited to see that my friend Jane had some great ones at her sample sale.

But what I noticed as I was getting dressed for work one morning this week is that the proportions are so different from what I've been wearing recently, I had to rethink what to wear on top. For skinny pants (esp really skinny ones), loose and long is my way to go, but that doesn't work if the narrow waist is the only thing that prevents you from looking fat. Don't want to cover that up! And for the paper bag waist pants, anything with much detail just looked too busy and fussy. I might get more adventurous as I work my way through my closet and I've seen some great looks in magazines that might influence me. But for real life, for me now, I am keeping things simple. White shirt, long cardigan and sparkly necklace (and heels), so i don't look too much like Madonna in the "Who's that girl" era.

For me, this cut of pants works best if I keep it feminine (keep the waist uncluttered and wear heels). Otherwise, it's Charlie Chaplin, or just a dumpy pantsuit. The volume around the hips does make them tricky - but they're super-comfortable, and if you get it right, there's a very careless "now" vibe that reads as slouchy , not schlumpy. Well, the trousers in the middle photo are not slouchy at all, but they're a play on that bell shape so the proportions are similar.

But it's not just new trousers that I'm excited about. I've been going on about tights and I really like the contrast of a military style jacket and short skirt. And I still think short skirts and dresses look so great with short swingy coats - or a cape. Capes are really comfortable over jackets, actually, as there's a bit more room in the arm, but I find that the fabric gets a bit caught up if you're wearing a purse with a shorter strap. So I like the longer, cross the body kind of strap. I like that anyway, especially as, no matter how many times I try to unload non-essentials from my purse, it still seems to weigh a ton.



Btw, I bet it is not hard for you to guess which photos are from right after my haircut! :) Still amateur photography, but at least my hair looks good! Thanks Ellen!

Extremities

I think that the best way to deal with temptation is to give in just a little bit. If you don't have a pressure valve to let off steam, then it will keep building until it explodes. But just a little bit of giving into temptation isn't really giving in, it's just keeping things healthy.

At the moment, I am very tempted to go shopping for cold weather clothes. But I am trying not to buy any fall stuff until my friend Jane's sale. Her sale is second only to Christmas in the thrill and anticipation that I feel when I walk into her showroom. And it's twice a year!! And coming up soon!!! (btw, let me know if you want to go.) And I don't want to feel constrained by having bought full priced clothes which have already cut into my budget.

So, I opened my pressure valve a teeny bit and about $40 escaped (I meant it to be about $10, but my pressure valve isn't very subtle). And for that $40, I got 5 new bottles of nail polish in new colors - purple, mauve, brown-ish, matte brown/gray, and sparkly blue. (more '90s!! remember Hard Candy? And yet, here I am doing it again...but I like it!)

I like all of them, actually, and am really inspired right now to play around with color, pattern and texture in tights, nail polish - and maybe soon gloves and hats, which I find myself more interested in this year. I think it's because designers are producing more creative ideas for extremities (legs, fingers, hands, well, ok, your head is not an extremity) because these accessories are cheap(er) ways of getting a new look. Nail polish definitely is, anyway.

So, there you go. All bought yesterday, so available in stores, in case you like any of them.

Btw, the other best way to deal with temptation is to give in and fully enjoy it.

Last Emperor Strikes Back

The first day there's a bit of chill in the air, my heart rate picks up a beat and I get this back to school feeling of wanting to step up my energy level, get into a new routine (take lessons in something, exercise more)... I finally get to wear my new boots, my skinny jeans, and to play around with colored and patterned tights and scarves that are too hot and too much bother in the summertime...
(photos - how I make a summer wool suit work for fall, and one of my Copenhagen purchases - two-toned tights from Sneaky Fox worn with summer wool black dress).


And then my stomach drops like I just hit a dip in the road that I hadn't expected and I realize.. gulp.. time for the seasonal closet rehaul. I know it sounds like nothing, but there's something a bit accusatory when your doorman tells you there's too much dry cleaning for you to take up in the elevator with you in 6 trips. All those clothes - my clothes - hidden away for the season have now come back home, reminding me that.. yep.. there are a lot of them. And it's a feat of engineering and some sacrifice to fit them back into my closet. It's hard to face. The big bill doesn't help, either.. Gulp.

Despite all my gulping as I paid that bill this evening, I still was hungry, so I made dinner and watched Valentino, the Last Emperor, a movie I'd missed in theaters because I was having too much fun at happy hour with Michelle to make it. It's one of those great movies where you laugh at the outsized personalities and "out of touch-ness" of prima donnas (or primo huomos?). (Example: hating an entire museum because of one stair rail that reminds him of Macy's).. But it pulled me away from feeling a little self destructive guilt (self destructive because I'm not going to change the behavior that leads to the guilt because the rest of the time that behavior makes me really happy). And the movie reminded me again of why I have all those clothes in the first place. Because it's my creative outlet and because they're beautiful (or at least, I think they are) and if I have a choice, I want my life to be beautiful too. There may be more important things in life, but not THAT many, really. Aesthetics are far too underrated.

So, as a tribute to the reminder that Valentino gave me, I am accepting the fact that I have a whole lot of purses hanging in my foyer and am now considering that my decor (and I added a tiny little Valentino clutch). Rationalization is another of my creative outlets...

I'm alive (and so's the blog)

I have a bunch of ideas that I want to write about, but they pretty much all require my photos as illustration and I'm getting a bit tired of editing the wonkiness out of my bathroom mirror. (You friends who've been in my apartment know what I mean - you can make your face look like Eric Stoltz in The Mask then like a Steve Madden ad depending on the angle. Kind of cool analog effect, but not appropriate for this blog, really.. )

Anyhow, I'm writing with other photo illustrations while I work that angle out, and because I don't have a theme will be a bit more random than usual...

So, since I have lots of things I'm dying to show that I like, I'm going to write about things I don't like from NY fashion week, Oktoberfest and other stuff I've done in between. But also wanted to mention some things that I do like very much! (that doesn't require any of my photography - all images from style.com, btw...)

First show, first model - bowl cut. I don't like it (though the clothes were very nice). Maybe models, because they look like the skinniest 10 year old boys you've ever seen, can kind of pull it off, but no, I don't see this working in the mainstream. And because it's so obviously now, it also seems a bit lemming-ish and not very reflective of an individual style to me. Maybe I just don't get it, but I don't. So there you go...

Men's brogue-style shoes for women. Well, naturally, they don't have high heels, so it's like a foreign language to me, but they add further support to my suspicion that there's a "no trend left behind" campaign going on, because dig through old Vogue/Elle/Bazaars from 15 years ago and what you haven't seen people promoting as cool yet, you will. I'm still waiting for full-on Laura Ashley floral & petticoat to come back topped by a silly hat - I've already seen the high necked Victorian blouse in NY and Copenhagen (and have to say, it looked pretty cool the way I saw it worn - with high waisted, bell-shaped trousers.) But if the original 90210 (cropped t-shirt and paper bag waists and all) is being promoted as a fashion source (which I have read), guard your wallets.. A fool and his/her money, etc etc...

I saw all kinds of horrible new acid/stone wash jeans treatments in Germany, but that's such an easy target. I also saw a leopard print dirndl, which is just bad bad.. to paraphrase something I read a while ago, sometimes you don't want a variation on the theme, you want the theme. Guys get this right - I saw no '80s hair band influenced lederhosen. Just suede like it ought to be. Way to go, guys!!

Well, I hate to end on a negative note, so will mention something that I realized I like a lot as I was watching the fashion shows (aside from Matthew Ames' show, from which I've already mentally purchased about 4 things). Pants. Or trousers, but you know what I mean. I've seen some flowy pants and there's something about that look that just draws my eye. Maybe because there are so many dresses, shorts, minis, etc, in the show (and in my closet as well)... I don't know, but I like it.

My adventures in cool COS and descent into Top Shop hell

I was in London for a few days and had lunch with a friend near Oxford Street. Lunch was wonderful, it was great to catch up, the sun was shining.. so, feeling happy and with a couple hours to wander around before meeting my next group of wonderful friends, I wandered around the neighborhood and into one of my favorite London stores, Liberty.

Sadly I missed the sale, but I found a shiny purple Stella McCartney shoulder bag that was a whole lot lighter than the leather bag that was currently wearing a groove into my shoulder. It wasn't my bag's fault, really, I had a desert trek ration of water, 8 lipsticks, a kindle, 2 phones (work & play), not to mention the 20 pounds in my wallet (and by that, I mean the physical weight of those coins, not their value!!), plus the random stuff that just sits in the bottom of bags. Unfortunately, however, this bag was GBP 430 or so, which translates to ca US$10,000 (roughly) and that just seemed a bit too expensive for a vinyl bag that was essentially a more '80s chic version of a le Sports Sac. (Stella doesn't do leather, as I'm sure you all know, so neither do her bags).

That didn't mean I didn't want it, though. I picked it up a few times, did the math again, and decided to run out of the store (I left it there! - no Winona Ryder, me!).

After I stopped running, I found myself right at a store called COS. They don't have this brand in NY, but I'd just read H&M's annual report (yes, I really did.. ) and was curious to see what H&M's more upscale sister was about. I also thought there might be a cheaper vinyl bag there for a fraction of the Stella bag's cost.

No such luck, but there were plenty of other things that caught my eye...I couldn't handle the structured wool dresses (too scratchy - I was a bit sunburned from the extended sunny pub afternoon the day before).. But there were some very chic basic pieces that looked much more expensive than the price tag would suggest. I was pleased - especially as there is no COS in New York, so I won't see many other people wearing the same stuff. I picked up a couple things for myself (see photo) and for others, too... (btw, the shirt is pretty simple, but not quite as plain as it looks in this terrible photo.) The skirt looks good with my boots, too..


Inspired by my success at a moderately priced fashion store, I decided I'd brave Top Shop. Now, I have been a Top Shop skeptic. I don't believe the hype - and it escalated to pretty high craziness levels when they opened a branch in New York.

Sure, it's fine if you're in high school and want to spend the change you made waiting tables on a new shirt, but magazines, blogs, etc, are trying to make this out as real fashion. To my eye, the clothes look cheap, the racks are a disaster, and, if you survive the endless lines to the fitting room and then again at the cash register, and actually make it out of the store with you and your purchase intact, then congratulations!! you now look like every other tragic fashion victim in London (and now NY). No thanks!!

But, as I said, I was willing to concede I'd been wrong - especially if they had a cool bag along the lines of that Stella one or some good cheap t-shirts with a bit of an edge.

Uh.. no... What I did find, however, was great photographic documentation of why I was right about Top Shop in the first place. Which I present to you now...

Exhibit 1: (main photo above)

Exhibit 2: fitting room line


Exhibit 3: for clothes like this


Exhibit 4: And this


Now, in my view, this jacket looked like one of those cheap tops made originally to be sold for $30 in some street market stall and that you can now pick up at Goodwill for $5. Why pay $250 for that?? In my eyes, it was proof of the "Top Shop is fashion" hoax..

And yet.. 2 days after my Top Shop visit, a daily fashion blog (Refinery 29) featured it as one of their "Top 5 trends to take home".


Are they kidding?? or are they part of the hoax? Did they not see it in person? Do you have to promote Top Shop to get any advertiser who uses Kate Moss? Am I just missing something really big here? I don't get it, i just really don't get it...

If one of you is a Top Shop expert and wants to show me how it works, I'll give it a try. But I'm not going back on my own...

Next one will be about the fairy tale shopping in wonderful Copenhagen.

Packin' Heat

I bet that if you were to ask most people to list things they disliked to do, right up there with public speaking and cleaning, would be packing.

I have seen friends absolutely dread packing and put it off as late as they can and others who take 10 minutes to throw stuff in a bag for a 2 week trip (grrrr), but I start to plan at least a week ahead, analyzing the potential weather at my destination, possible activities and the clothes they would require; what will wrinkle, what will travel well, and what I'll simply feel like wearing.

On Thursday, (tonight, in fact, I wrote this earlier this week), I'm leaving for London, then Copenhagen for about 10 days and, aside from the boots I just bought and wrote about, haven't yet worked out what I'll bring. You'd think it would be easy. After all, I live in New York, couldn't I just wear the same thing I wear here?? And the answer is "yes", but since my choices will be limited to what I can carry, I want to think it through and wear the RIGHT same thing I wear here.

So, I decided to come up with a system for the perfect packing wardrobe - in this case, for stylish cities in Northern Europe in late summer. Breaking down a wardrobe to basic elements should be useful for me for this trip and hopefully for future packing as well. (As an FYI, I plan to check in my bag. When I flew to Germany a month ago, I was told that the weight limit for carry on is 7kg. Translated into packing terms, that's a suitcase, a pair of shoes, and toothpaste. So I'm not even going to pretend!)

So, the elements of my wardrobe...

4 daytime tops: something cool, stylish, comfortable and versatile, so not basic t-shirts, but nothing overdone, either... white's a little risky for travel, but I like them and it is summer after all... Actually, it IS summer, so make that 5 or 6 tops - to be fresher..

2 layers (jacket & sweater)

1 belt to make the tops more interesting and give more wardrobe options.

2 scarves (1 pashmina, which is nicer than an airplane blanket for the flight, 1 lighter scarf)

4 bottoms: 2 pairs of skinny pants (one black, one probably jeans), mini skirt, dressy shorts, plus a pair of leggings to fly in (since they allow me to do contortions in the seat so I can sleep comfortably..ish).

1 day dress (or two)

2 dressier night time options: a top that will go with the pants/skirt/shorts I've packed and a dress, or maybe a jumpsuit, or both.

4 pairs of shoes: my boots, high heels, flat sandals I can walk around in, and another pair of flats, probably my sneaker/ballerinas. Also a blister stick - they are amazing!!

Bathing suit? Well, it doesn't take up much room and I just read you can swim in Copenhagen. Will I? don't know, doubt it, but definitely sunscreen and sunglasses, in any case..

Pyjamas, underwear, toiletries (I have a pre-packed bag of mini sizes of pretty much everything), a hairdryer, adaptor cords, chargers (for iphone/ipod, work phone, kindle, camera.. when are they going to do universal adaptors again???), noise reduction earphones, spare toothbrush/paste, lip balm and moisturizer to carry on as it's an overnight flight there, passport and left over foreign currency from my last trip, and I'm good to go! Whew!! If I were staying in a hotel, I'd also bring my portable ipod speakers and a couple decks of cards, but no need if I'm staying at a friend's place.

So, here are my dressed-up and dressed-down combinations of these pieces. (And yes, a lot of what's different is shoes.. but shoes are important!!)

Dressed up:

and yes.. I realize I am looking tired and my hair is a mess! At some point, I may learn Photoshop and then not a hair will be out of place! hah - right!!)

Dressed down (some are a little dressy):

























PS: Update.. As I mentioned above, I wrote this a few days ago and I'm about to leave for the airport in a few minutes. So, did this systematic planning work? Well, mostly. Packing was really easy because I already knew what I wanted to bring. But I did leave a couple key things at home (the new boots and iPod - rats! system derailed because I didn't have a carry-on plan!!) so I dashed back during lunch to get them. Everything fits nicely into my bags - but they weigh a darn ton!!!)

Obsessed Until Possessed

Rapid onset obsession:

I don't know how it happened, exactly. I was at work, reading research and earnings reports, chatting to clients and colleagues, but my mind kept going back to those boots. And as I kept trying to focus my mind back on work, each time this little feeling built: "I HAVE to have those boots!". Everything about them was so right and all the other boots just weren't. Nothing else was going to equal them.

Hours later, I'm emailing photos to a friend, then taking a detour on the way home through Saks "just to look", and finally changing course and walking to 8th Ave for the subway down to Iris, the shop that emailed me about those boots in the first place.

How did I end up from being (relatively) good about saving money to spending a chunk on one pair of boots on the hottest day of the summer? What happened in my head, my chemistry that changed me from being completely satisfied with what I have at home (even thinking it's too much) to being distracted, really almost obsessed, and giving in to that little tantrum-throwing 3 year old in my head until I walked out the store with them, tried them on at home and thought: "yup, these are AWESOME!!"..?

I wish I knew. I could make a fortune bottling it...

The boots, by the way, are biker boots. And I think the biker-ness of them has something to do with the timing of this fixation (if not the fixation itself) since motorcycles have come up in a number of conversations recently. I don't have a motorcycle, but have always kind of wanted one (in the same way I have always kind of wanted to sky dive). I think Freud called that "Death Wish". But I'm also a little bit accident prone and am not ready to call it a day yet, so this is my compromise that keeps me alive.

In any case, I think my tantrum throwing 3 year old has great taste. These boots are totally my style and, as another indication of mid '90s retro fashion, remind me of the biker boots I used to clomp around in when I first moved to New York (though a lot nicer). If I see you on a day when the temperature is under 70 degrees, you will see me wear them. And this is probably how...